Welcome to Polo and Pearls

 THE blog for female transformation. 

 Back in the mid to late 1990's, I was living in a big city, working multiple jobs like a good little feminist (although our version of "feminist" looks nothing like today's version), dating- it was just as much of a nightmare back then as it is now- and wondering if and when it would all pay off. Clearly the men in my socioeconomic group had not received, or if they did they had not read- the memo to be high earners (RM- rich men). Many still wore ball caps as if they were fedoras. They dressed and acted like man-children. T-shirts with skinny jeans. If it was an important event they broke out the collared shirt. Seeing a man in a suit was as rare for me as an eclipse. I was quite excited to learn one day that some of the offices in our floor of the high rise were rented out to a group of attorneys. Men in suits!

   Things didn't go as planned, so I eventually moved back to the small town I had left in search of fortune and a good marriage.

    I do not know when I first purchased one of, Ginie Polo-Sayles books. I only remember how it changed the way I thought about marriage.  I ended up purchasing several more. Ginie was a regular woman who had managed to "marry up". Hypergamy it is called. Some sneer out the words "social climber" or "social climbing". Whatever you wish to call it, you can do it if you so desire, but remember--- you cannot catch what you disdain. If you hate money or people with money you will never have either.

    Over time, Ginie became my fairy godmother so-to-speak. She advised me on everything from wardrobe, to decor, to eating, and speaking. She covered all of the bases. her words of wisdom had stood the test of time. 

    Some minor things have changed. Phrases such as, Rich mate, or RM have been replaced with High Value Man-HVM or High Value Woman-HVW. Not phrases I'm fond of as it makes one sound as if they are at a livestock market picking out the best meat. Although we all know, or should be able to admit, we are talking about people of a certain income level-- many people seem to be embarrassed by this and this is why I think HVM and HVW have replaced RM as the in-vogue words used to describe what is really going on... you want to marry up. 

    Because of my love for GPS--Ginie Polo-Sayles, she will continue to be our North Star. Our compass. I am already married. I will be celebrating 22 years of marriage this December. This information is for you, Dear Reader or DR. 

    It is time to take of the blue-feminist colored glasses, and for you to have a reality check. We will get to all of that soon. For now... Welcome!  

What can you change about yourself today that would make you more appealing to a man? Take a good long look at yourself in the mirror. Do you need to lose weight? Change your hair or makeup? Do you need to bathe regularly? Do you need to do your laundry more frequently?- Hygene is a gift you give to yourself and to others. Do you need to stop dressing like a high school boy and wear "girly" clothes? Dating, and marrying a RM is like going to a job interview. You are to put your best foot forward. YOU need to change. Why? Because if what you are doing worked, you would already be married. 

Take a good long look and do an honest assessment between yourself and let's say, Kate Middleton, Princess Diana, Jackie Kennedy, Grace Kelly, etc. This, and watching gentlemen Prefer Blondes and/or, How to Marry a Millionaire- are your homework for the week.